Are We There Yet?
November is the time of year for traveling. Whether by plane, train or automobile, this can pose a challenge when you add ADHD to the mix. It’s more than just being antsy while forced to sit for an extended period of time. Those with Executive Dysfunction also have difficulty keeping track of time (an hour can seem like forever, or like 15 minutes), and preparing in advance for unfamiliar experiences. Here are some ways you can help to manage expectations:
1. Talk about the travel logistics in advance. Whether you’re going by car, by plane, or even by Amtrak, make sure your child has an idea of what to expect. Airports can be crowded and noisy. Explain why it’s important to stay close, and review expectations from arrival and getting through security, to finding your gate, to lining up for departure. It’s also important to explain that there will be some time to walk around, grab a snack, visit the restroom, etc. If you’re traveling by car, review why it’s important that you be able to focus on the road and may not always be available to answer questions in the moment. Finally, if you’re traveling by train, make sure your child knows that once you find your seats, there will be opportunities to walk around, perhaps visit a snack car, and that the scenery will be constantly changing. An important thing to know about train travel is that there is a very short time allowed for boarding the train – it will be important to be ready to go!
2. Plan for travel-friendly activities. This is one instance when extended screen time to play games or watch a movie could be a special treat. Believe it or not, it can be a time-management tool as well. Instead of saying that you have a half hour of travel time left, you could explain, “We will be traveling for the time it takes to watch one episode of Paw Patrol.” If your family is into board games or if your child requires a more tactile activity to hold their attention, consider purchasing small magnetic games that are ideal for travel. There are also card games, audio books, and hosts of other ideas to pass the time. Even Mad Libs, one of our favorite childhood activities, is still available for some interactive fun.
3. Involve your child in mapping the route. If you are planning a long car trip, you will also need to plan for stops. This doesn’t always have to be a travel plaza. Take some time with your child to really study the route, and plan for fun and interesting detours along the way. You never know what you might find. One of our EEG consultants took a road trip from Virginia to visit family in Indiana – and discovered the Mothman Museum in West Virginia. Maybe not your thing, but certainly a different kind of pit stop! What is your child into? Chances are there will be points of interest along the way that you may never have thought of.
Children who struggle with Executive Dyfunction, ADHD or other neurodiversities may also struggle with the anticipation and planning aspects of travel. By managing expectations and preparing for down time, you can help pave the way for a smoother trip. Wishing all of our EEG families and friends safe travels and a Happy Thanksgiving!